Make ‘em Laugh🎭

Dec 10, 2025

7am

Around 7 AM I was feeling very sad because I felt like I don’t make anybody laugh anymore. I have been making people laugh my entire life. Especially in sex work, I use a lot of humor Throughout all the different types of Creative-expression, medias types, Publications, Advocacy, Self-promotion even - People noticed that I was very punny & sharp witted When I immediately joined the industry. Making people laugh is just Part of who I am. I just felt like I had not made anyone laughing a very long time and it really Bothered me on a personal Level. How the hell could Two years of bullying result In even taking away My comedic value?! I’m hysterical! I am silly playful bold & There’s always A part of me, trying to put a smile on your face.

Personally

I think I’m funny. People always called me brilliant, Genius, & So refreshingly playful. Men call me the alpha. Hobbyists Call me spicy because I’m mean whenever they’re rude. I have been cracking jokes and making fun of sw Life for over a decade! I’ve always been Super cute & funny. I’m the girl with a kilowatt smile! But this morning, I was just sad because I Can’t figure out why people suddenly don’t like my jokes or Ignore my word play or I will just never fucking be good enough!

Like Lexi Buffalo Told me the first day I joined Twitter (I’m already suspended) “EVERYBODY HATES YOU!”

LETS DISCUSS BRIEFLY:

The bullying statement, "everybody hates you!" is a potent form of psychological and verbal abuse that leverages social dynamics and cognitive distortions to inflict maximum emotional harm. It is designed to isolate the victim and break down their sense of self-worth by presenting a subjective opinion as an objective, universal truth.

Psychological Meaning for the Victim

For the target, this statement is deeply damaging because it attacks fundamental human needs for belonging and social acceptance.

Social Ostracization: The primary goal is to make the victim feel completely alone and rejected by their entire social sphere. Humans are social creatures, and the perception of universal rejection can lead to profound loneliness and despair.
Cognitive Distortion: The "everybody" component uses an all-or-nothing (or "false dilemma") fallacy. The bully presents only two extremes (everyone loves you or everyone hates you), forcing the victim into a mindset that isn't rooted in reality. The victim may begin to filter out any positive social cues while hyperfocusing on negative ones, reinforcing the bully's lie.
Internalized Shame and Low Self-Esteem:Repeated exposure to such a statement, particularly when the victim is already insecure, can lead to internalized shame, anxiety, and depression. The victim may start to believe the statement is true and that there is something inherently wrong with them.
Helplessness and Trauma: The message is designed to make the target feel helpless to respond or change the situation, which is a key element of bullying's power imbalance.

Psychological Explanation for the Bully

The bully's use of such a phrase typically stems from their own internal issues and a desire to gain power and control over others.

Projection of Insecurities: Bullies often struggle with low self-esteem, jealousy, or unresolved past trauma. By attacking someone else, they project their own self-doubt ("I hate myself") onto the victim ("everybody hates you!") to feel temporarily superior and in control.
Power and Social Status: The assertion that "everybody" is involved aims to demonstrate the bully's influence and elevate their own social standing within a group. If peers witness the bullying and do not intervene (the bystander effect), the bully's perception of power is reinforced.
Lack of Empathy/Guilt: Bullies may lack empathy or fail to see their behavior as a problem, focusing only on their own need for validation or control.
Learned Behavior: Bullying can sometimes be a learned behavior from their own experiences as a victim of abuse or by growing up in a dysfunctional family environment.

This phrase is a particularly cruel tactic because it amplifies the natural human fear of social exclusion, an instinct leftover from an evolutionary need for group acceptance to survive.

What a bitch. “Everybody hates you!” has never been true about a single person fead or alive. Unfortunately, in sex work it does influence the group mob mentality mindset to Mistreat and abuse The target - I have talked for over 18 months about how the bullying started with one girl doing some mean fucked up shit, For the first time in my entire career nobody stood up for me when she did it, Slowly other people joined in Making fun of me Because it was being allowed By the community, People just want to feel cool And included, The bullying went from one person to a small group to all of sw twitter Them to anonymous sw twitter Then it went to Instagram, Then to Snapchat, Then to Reddit, Then to BlueSky, I mean I explained in real time that this bullying trend had spread like wildfire to every Part of the Internet and I could not freaking even exist Without someone else, Somebody new, Somebody unknown, Endless stream of losers coming out of nowhere In every sex workspace to target stock, harass, bully, mock call names I mean, they have done it all… Thank you so much to whoever started the hashtag #heatherrileyisafatbitch, That’s super cool of you, And even anonymous clients are joining in with fucking ass random I don’t know who the hell they are sex workers In camaraderie and solidarity to just bully everything about me.

Anyone not outright bullying me is still Guilty by their silence. Specifically, I have talked four months about very specific Chicago sex workers that I have tried to talk to individually about their behavior or what the situation is going on In an attempt attempts to repair any concerns or issues… I can’t stop thinking or hating these women I thought were my lifelong friends for withholding engagement interaction, and the fucking incredible power of a RT From me. The last two years of my life did not have to happen. My family did not have to go through all of these horrible things Unleashed upon us. I would not have lost so many valuable relationships and experiences. I never would have wanted to Unalive myself. Not a goddamn thing ever had to happen if just one of my friends had been a normal fucking person and Treated me normally on social media. I think every day about how fucking cruel that is to force upon not only mean but my children. I have been saying for two years that all it would take is one person giving me a RT?? I made two years worth of content and shared so much historical content about what I did for the community only for it all to fall on death years and while Allie Is no longer bullying me, Everyone else still is treating me like fucking trash and it makes me hate every day of my life. Being bullied was such a fucking terrible experience and I lost so fucking much that I will never get back, But The idea that she also stole my ability to make people smile and laugh?? That’s soul crushing. I used to be the happiest girl in the world. And now I feel like I will never be happy again, I’ll never smile again, & Maybe Lexi Was telling the truth: Everybody hates me.

8am

I MADE A HOOKER LAUGH!! She found my video on TikTok and thought it was so funny. That makes my whole day! Not EVERYBODY hates me. One person likes my jokes. Sure, I would rather have a million appointments and make stacks on stacks on stacks … but I absolutely love that I made a girl laugh this morning. I didn’t make a million today, but I am filthy rich in all the ways that matter! 😍 (also, manifesting a milli)

The Sex Work Food Joke

Its one of my favorite sw jokes to tell! Plus, It makes an excellent point about Stereotypical Ridiculous Bad behavior by potential clients. These dudes will always talk to SWers Like this and never acknowledge that they are the problem. they have no intention of actually meeting us or anything. They just like to text sexy girls online for attention when they’re lonely horny and bored I always assume they’re texting 30 different girls at the same time. In 10 to 15 years, This has always been Timewaster behavior. As a mentor once told me, “Nobody has more questions than somebody never going to book you.”

I made a short series on why sex workers, specifically me, do not allow any questions from clients. I had not intended to make a miniseries, but a SW Commented Being confused “why I would not engage with basic questioning that Is how you get dates.” I did a literal facepalm. And then I have other people responding, “I would never even acknowledge a text message that did not have A proper introduction!” I don’t actually know any sex workers who think that these types of questions are from legitimate clients or leads to money Or is it a good use of time Or Doesn’t care that It’s against the hoe Code to 1. talk explicitly & 2. be unsafe and 3. not be discrete. Thus, a 3PT series on why “No questions.” I Can think of Additional reasons why “No questions” are allowed during the booking process but this girl is struggling with the basics. We gotta keep it simple stupid, MUAH 💋

The Food Joke is PT 2 😝